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I'm too sickened to post the actual article text. So here's the link.

Apparently Rihanna has been proven to need anger management since she got her face bashed in.

Keep in mind, this feature isn't even really about Chris Brown and Rihanna. This is about domestic violence. Apparently, the New York Daily News has no qualms with blaming abuse victims for their traumatic experiences if they have the audacity to do something like, say, throw a pair of car keys. Because us bitches deserve it when we get out of line.


I emailed a letter to the editor, here it is:

Title: Your Hideous Chris Brown/Rihanna Feature

"I am emailing to voice my outrage over your sickening article about Rihanna needing anger management. The woman had her face practically bashed in, and according to your paper, she caused him to do it by throwing a pair of car keys. Oh yes, she should definitely be punished for making Brown beat her, right? She must have asked for it? Brown could not possibly control himself and not hit her after she had the audacity to throw those keys!

Because it's the woman's fault if they're abused, right? They deserve a beating for having the nerve to..... throw keys. Gotta teach us our place, right? If not, well, we're just asking for a beating.

Yep. She had her face used as punching bag, she definitely needs anger management. Obviously she's unstable. It's not enough that she was pulverized by someone she trusted, she needs to be taught another lesson!

I'm not really talking about those two anymore. I'm talking about every case of domestic violence in which a woman (or sometimes a man) has been beaten and blamed for it. This acceptance of victim-blaming continues to justify abuse and violence to potential attackers. You were not just talking about Rihanna and Chris Brown there, you were essentially sent the message that the victim is to blame when they are abused. You used an unknown source (couldn't you at least have the decency to use a real one? Or did you just make this up to feul some pro-violence, woman-hating agenda?). You sent the message that the victim of abuse "asks for it" in some way, and that violence against women is okay if the woman has the audacity to act in an angry manner. You sent that message to your readers, This was just an "example." Don't believe me? Read some of the comments on your article. You were not talking about those two celebrities at all. You were talking about all victims of abuse, all women who had ever been beaten by their fathers, partners, husbands, boyfriends, etc. You decided that in the issue of Domestic Violence, you are more sympathetic to the abusers than the victims.


Thank you for sending the message that abuse victims ask for it, that women make men beat them, that the man should not be held responsible for his violent actions in cases like these. I hope you are proud of yourselves. I will from now on associate your publication with violence, irresponsibility, lack of human feeling, and misogyny

Wendy Notsid"


You know maybe I'm strange, but I really think the person who resorted to violence is the one who is entirely at fault.

You can send a message to the editor at voicers@edit.nydailynews.com

This isn't about one incident, this is about all cases of Domestic Abuse. We need to stand up against victim-blaming, whoever the victim may be. Violence is never justifiable and victims are being criticized for being attacked.

What kind of fucked up world do we live in where people actually do that?

It's bad enough Perez Hilton is a disgusting slimeball, what with his penchant for calling 16-year-old girls sluts at every opportunity. But he reveals that he is so desperate to "break' "news" stories and is so ignorant about women's bodies that he is calling preggers on every female celebrity who inhales.

Seriously, you may be shocked and in a state of disbelief over his so-called photo evidence.

1) Nicole Kidman: COULD IT BE???


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Apparently, she has a "bump." MUST be preggers!

Never mind her boobs are miniscule, that she had a baby a few months ago, and that she's basically a stick. Apparently, a picture of a woman who's stomach isn't as flat as Joe Jonas's hair is cause for pregnancy rumors.

2) Claire Danes: SPERMINATED???


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She's wearing a shiny fabric, moron. Also, very thin.

Seriously, I'm starting to wonder if this dude is aware that women breath, and that their breathing, just like his, involves inhalation, and that inhalation makes your front rise.

3) Kate Moss: SPERMINATION SHOWING?


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Seriously.

I'm starting to wonder if women are going to have to stop inhaling altogether so as to avoid having to refer to themselves as "Fat" to dispell pregnancy rumors. WTF are people insane? These women are incredibly skinny, yet their belly rises for a second and everyone's crying "BABY!" Soon we'll see every celebrity chick sporting an iron lung so they won't have to inhale air and look "fat." Either that or we'll be going back to whale-bone corsets.

How insane have our beauty standards become that we call pregnancy on anything?

I remember when Eva Longoria-Parker said she was "just fat" after pregnancy rumors started popping up to her. According to People Magazine, after that she went on a diet and lost ten pounds. But she didn't look fat then at all. I'm willing to bet Eva Longoria Parker has ever been "fat" in her life. And Kate Moss.

SERIOUSLY PEOPLE. KATE MOSS IS CALLING HERSELF FAT.

WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU?

Is this the new crotch shot or something? WTF.

HEY MORONS, HAVING A STOMACH MEANS NOTHING. THE ONLY WAY TO TELL IS IF THE CHICKS BOOBS SWELL AND SHE'S FLUSHED.

What really bothers me is that it's not just the apparent ignorance people have about women's bodies, but it's more like the only acceptable thing to be if your stomach is not concave is to be pregnant. Like, those are the only good ways to be if your female. If your stomach pushes out if you're a girl and you're pregnant, you're fat, and that's bad. So to be nice, we;ll just assume that you're pregnant since your belly is not the acceptable table-shape. The only time it's acceptable and not embarrassing for a woman's belly to be visible is when she's pregnant, apparently. That's right ladies: either your stomach doesn't push out at all, or you're pregnant, otherwise, well, be embarrassed and call yourself fat.

If that's not the message that's being put out here, then I don't know what is.

Seriously, why aren't chicks allowed to have stomachs anymore?


Well, fuck that.

God damn it.

Always write your journals on word first. My poem got deleted.

It's basically about how you meet certain people who remind that no matter what, you really don't know shit and you can't really say the right thing because unless you've lived what they're going through, you can't possibly understand. And if you think you do, you're a moron. Unimaginable struggles are the bouts of intense and hardship of a special variety. A broken heart, a health problem that can't get fixed, a tumor, being a victim of abuse, losing someone you've depended on almost your whole life. Unless you've lived it, you can't know. But even though I can't say the right thing to so many people who are going through shit, I hope they hear it through all the white noise and bullshit some arrogant prick like me might spew out. You don't need to hear how everything will work out in the end, or how everything happens for a reason. Words can heal but not all words do. People need to hear the right ones and sometimes they don't get them. All anyone can do is listen. I can't say anything of value to anyone, really, except I hope that even if no one says the right thing, I hope all the people out there going through intense shit will hear it. You all deserve it. We don't have to talk to love. Just love.

Anyways, this isn't the poem, but I'm still going to dedicate it to Sarah, Mr. A, Dr. B, Grandpa, Kasper, that girl at school who asked me to pray that her brain scan goes okay, and everyone who is dealing with unfair shit right now.