Part One: Disagreement and Stifling Someone's Opinion
This is an argument/debate:
Now, in both cases, each party carefully read and addressed the other party's statements (this comment is from my Hannah Montana Blog
). We spoke calmly and respectfully and managed to voice our opinions without offending the other. We got our points across and discussed them.
This is an argument. It is pretty standard. No bad feeling have arisen and everything is fine.
I have no trouble with anyone disagreeing with me. Obviously if I had I would have stifled her opinion by deleting her comment and blocking her. That is stifling a person's opinion. That is not letting them say their piece. That is showing disrespect for their opinion.
Instead of doing that, I discussed her point. I reframed from using insults. Which brings us to our next section.
Part Two: The Difference Between Voicing Your Opinion and Petty Insults
This is someone voicing their opinion in regards to my Twilight Blog
Look! Courtesy! Was she mad? No. Was she respectful? Yes. Was she nice? Yes. Did she disagree with me? Totally.
Ok, but here is Ashly's Twilight Blog
Here is a comment:
These are petty insults. HINT: Focus on the argument, don't attack the people.
Trying to belittle people's opinions by using words like ''dumb'' and "idiot'' only prove you have no respect for the person. It also usually means you have no proper argument and have the maturity of a fetus. It's one thing to disagree, but to pull bullshit like this? No.
You want respect from someone? You wnt to make someone see something from your point of view? Start using better manners. Most bloggers are not going to hate you for disagreeing (unlike some I could mention but won't) and even if they do? You have nothing on your conscience because you didn't start throwing insults nor did you act ridiculously.
It pisses people off way more if you are courteous anyways. That means that if they act on their first impulse, they're the bad guy. They have to be NICE to you or else they're the douchebag. HOW IS THAT NOT MORE SATISFYING?
Listen, we all want to screm when someone says something we think is ridiculous. But it is betterto get it all out in a calm manner rather than just be an over-zealous time-bomb. If the urge is to great, here is some advice: Get off the computer, go to your bed, turn on some loud angry music and jump around and scream. Then come back to the computer and try and demolish their arguments.
And if you make some stupid comment and apologize?
YOU CAN EVEN GET COMPLIMENTS. FROM YOUR OPPONENT. TRUST ME I KNOW.
Otherwise, you're just a monkey with a keyboard and your point of view will mean nothing to them. You can only do so much. But you will do the most by not throwing names/slurs around.